Why do we allow others to have such a hold over us?

Wheter it be with friends, family, lovers, co workers...

We are always so concerned by what others think about us.

How do they feel towards us?

Is he attracted to me?

Does she like me?

Do I sound dumb right now?

Am I making him happy?

Am I doing this right?

Why does he not like me?

What did I do wrong?

What's wrong with me?

Maybe I should change this?

Change that?

Maybe I should not speak up?

Maybe if I buy this I will win her over?

Why is he acting so different all of a sudden?

Is it me?


What's wrong with me?
I'm not good enough!
I'm worthless.
I'm too ugly.
I'm too fat.
I'm too stupid.



It keeps going and going and going.

STOP!!!!

Gain control over this incessant voice in your head.

STOP!!!

What others think about you IS NONE OF YOUR BUSINESS

Never change yourself to please anyone.

Never sacrifice your self respect for anyone.

Never doubt yourself for anyone.

Never allow anyone to ever have a hold over you.

When you become so concerned with others rather than yourself you are giving away your power.

You are no longer in control.

You no longer have power over your thoughts, feelings or emotions.

Is this what you want?

Do you really want....

Your parents

Your children

Your lover

Your coworker

Your friends

Your ANYONE

Have so much power and control over YOU?

I know that I sure as heck don't.

I will proudly say that I too fell victim to this.

Always concerned about what other's thought about me.

Allowed men to disrespect me.

Allowed friends to walk all over me.

Never stood up for myself.

Lacked the confidence.


Lacked the self love and worth.

Was too concerned by pleasing others.


I am proud to say that I no longer allow anyone to have such power and control over me.

I am now in full control.



We are each absolutly PERFECT just the way we are.

If the people you surrond yourself can't see your innate light and beauty, than you should not associate with them.

PERIOD.





 I no longer allow anyone to have such power over me.

I have overcome this weakness.



I am left to battle with my own internal demons.

My ego that is.

Which is another topic on it's own.


For now...

Take a moment to think about it.

Think about your life.

Is there anyone that you have given away your power to?

Do you want it back?

What are you going to do about it?

Keep shining your light.

Be authentic.


Be vigilant in who you attract.

Those that respect and love you for who you are, are keepers.

Those that don't, need to be tossed back into the sea of life.



Always be the one in control and power.

R.A.N