Hello .....
You need to understand that what you are going through is extremely normal. One moment feeling like you’re on top of the world- considering the possibility of becoming friends with xxxx some day. The next moment, you are awoken by a dream (that you manifested) and are shaken up and are back on your low.
After the break up, you have embarked on a roller coaster ride of emotions. You will feel this way for the next little while. It’s up to you how long you stay on this ride. You can simply refuse to get off the ride, and can choose to ride it over and over and over again. The theme park will be closing. You will be all alone. Yet you still refuse to get off this ride. You continue to experience the fear and excitement of the ride. You have become a junkie.
OR you can choose to accept. To enjoy the high AND the LOW. In time you will realize that this ride is no longer exhilarating. You are hungry. You are tired. You are cold. You think to yourself “Karim, what the heck are you still doing on this ride? GO HOME!” In that moment, you decide to finally get off. You decide to gather all the broken pieces, throw them in the garbage, and walk away. You decide to look forward, move ahead and experience all the new and exciting rides that you haven’t tried before.
Another great analogy is the fact that your emotions have formed a tornado. You can either be swept away by its power. Or you can remain in the eye of the tornado. Which is calm and peaceful. In this case you are SURRONDED by the chaos but are not part of it. You stand calmly, peacefully, watching all the craziness around you, but you do not become part of it. In time, the tornado moves on and you are left standing. In the moment you can chose to walk in whatever direction you please. Texas. Africa. Blonde. Asian. Big tits. Big ass. 1 girl. 2 girls. 3 girls. WHATEVER YOU WANT. You can now go for.
What if I did this... what if I did that... shit I shouldn’t of done this or that... shit I lost her... shit she’s with someone... shit... shit... shit.. Shit...
Do you have magical powers? Can you change the past?
Does the past exist?
How about the future? Can you change that?
What about the PRESENT. Do you have any power in the present? Can you control it and change it?
YES YES and YES.
The past is a lonely, dark and depressing place to live in.
The future is scary and unknown.
The present is exciting and sometimes scary but the present is the only time where you have THE POWER to change. To change the downs. The lows.
Yes you had a dream. So what? Are you surprised that you did?
Look outside. Look at how beautiful the sun is shining. Take a look at the clouds. Look at how magnificent they are. Think about anything that excites you. Anything that you look forward to. Anything that makes you feel good. Running? Porn? Sex? Eating? Shisha? Chess? Reading? Writing?
What makes you feel good??? DO THEM. Every day. Create a list and every day aim to do at least one of them.
Continue your list of positive reasons. I could give you some reasons to add but that is not my place to. My purpose is not to tell you what to do or to influence you in any way. My only purpose is to hold your hand and walk you towards the light. If you refuse to take a step, than I cannot walk with you. You will remain in the dark. Eventually you will realize that being in the dark is depressing, lonely and you realize that you would much rather be in the light.
You must realize that all that your are feeling is IN YOUR HEAD. It is YOU that is making yourself feel on top of the world or drowning in the middle of the ocean. IT IS YOU THAT HAS COMPLETE CONTROL AND POWER. IN the PRESENT MOMENT. No one else does. Not your ex. Not I. Not your friends. Not your family. ONLY YOU.
Whatever you focus on, becomes a reality in your life. For as you know, your outer world is a mirror of your internal world. The more you focus on something the more you begin to attract of it in your life. When you focus on positive you will begin to attract positive things in your life and vice versa. The more you focus on the negative, the shittier you will feel. You will miss out on opportunities. You will mess up at work. You will lose friends. Is this what you want? You have no choice but to expect the reality of the situation.
The moment a negative thought comes in your mind, go take a look at your list. Remember all the reasons that you are happy that you broke up. Continue thinking of the positive. Think about your future. Think about all the doors that have just opened up right before your very eyes.
In the end. If you want her back. The only way that will happen is in time. If she one day realize she wants you back she will come back to you. In that moment you have the choice and power to decide if you want her back or not. Maybe you will. Maybe you won’t. ATLEAST YOU KNOW THAT YOU TRIED. If you didn’t you would always feel regret BUT YOU DID.
Think of her as a boomerang that you have let go. If everything goes according to plan she will eventually return to you. Or she will not because someone else grabbed the boomerang in mid air and decided to claim it. In any case YOU HAVE NO OPTION in this moment but to move on. Regardless of whether or not you get back together or not this is your only choice.
This break up is the best thing that could have happened to you both. It will either give you the time apart that you need to realize that you are meant to be OR it will give you the time to realize that it’s time to move on to bigger and better.
Think about it. She has moved on. She is happy. YOU TOO deserve this happiness. With OR without her. Either way you need to just STOP.
I’m telling you writing down your feelings will help allot. Try it. Start meditating. If you like I will do them with you some day.
Think about the reasons why you wanted to break up in the first place.
Why weren’t you happy with her?
Why weren’t you happy when you lived with her?
Does she have everything you are looking for?
Is she the one you want to marry?
Why did you continually tell people you wanted to break up?
Why did you look at her in bed and think this is not true love?
Yes she has matured because of you, but has she matured enough to make you happy?
Do you truly believe that if you got back together things would be amazing? Would you really change? Would she really make you happy? Would you really make her happy?
Why did you always have one foot out and one foot in?
These are questions you need to ask yourself. I don’t need to hear the response.
Anyways I have complete trust and faith that you will soon be smiling. A genuine passionate heart warming smile that originated from the centre of your being. Joy.
You will soon look back on this experience with extreme gratitude and grace.
Until than, focus on the positive. Continue to do things that make you happy. Spend time with friends and family that make you feel good. DONT DWELL. DONT THINK. JUST BE.
Babe you only have one life. One shot. One chance. DONT WASTE SUCH PRECIOUS TIME.
She is not. She has moved on. It’ that simple.
Anyways my rant is over. I hope I don’t come off as harsh as I’m merely speaking from the heart. Also please know that I am in no way trying to affect or alter the outcome. I want you to be happy and if that means you get back with her than I’m happy for you.
I truly wish you all the best and I hope that you chose to move on to the next ride soon enough.
Namaste
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