Has the person that is helping heal you whether through reading a book or in person healed themselves first? Its amazing how many authors and self proclaimed gurus write books, give speeches, offer coaching but haven't even healed themselves first! Becareful with the time, money, and hope you invest with these people! I used to be one of these victims until I started to wake up and see through them. I met someone I used to idolize and realiZed that she wasn't really who she portrayed herself to be. Atleast I now save money on books!